Regarding the potentials for C-O systems:
Currently, we only provide ReaxFF potentials, for such systems. The first one in the list sounds as if it may be close to what you are looking for ("ReaxFF reactive force field for molecular dynamics simulations of hydrocarbon oxidation"), however, you'd need to check if it works for graphene, as well. And it might be that it hasn't been parameterized to reproduce the dynamical matrix.
We are working on implementing REBO potentials at the moment, I'll check whether that can be extended to AIREBO potentials.
Bonds and potentials only depend on the elements, they are not influenced by the changing the masses of an element.