You can certainly transfer the structure from Gaussian to ATK, using XYZ format (use OpenBabel to convert it to XYZ, if needed). You cannot however directly transfer the "charge". It's not possible to introduce a charge in a two-probe system, because it would just run away anyway. The only way to have a charged molecule is to shift the Fermi level such that the central part can accept one more electron.
The SET example is different, it's not set up as a transport system, and then we can place a net charge on the system, but in the transport situation the electrodes are infinite reservoirs so they will just swallow the extra electron.
The Fermi level can be shifted by a gate, or as we did in ATK 2008.10 by artificially moving the Fermi level in the center. That's not possible in 10.8, but it might make a re-appearance later. For now, one should instead introduce real gates (which is a bit costly, memory-wise, so you may want to try using the Huckel method at first).
I didn't get the last point, about not using other software...