The meaning of the warnings in 2) and 3) is that the NEB optimization detects that your initial and final states are not relaxed to the level you have specified in the NEB script. We have observed that this warning can sometimes be triggered by numerical noise, so if the initial and final states are relaxed to just below the threshold, then the NEB algorithm might detect a slightly higher force, which is then just above the threshold. Say, the configuration is relaxed to 0.009 eV/Å with a threshold of 0.010 eV/Å and the NEB algorithm then detects a force of 0.011 eV/Å.
However, the reversal in the ordering of the energies suggest that is probably something else, but I cannot really say more without the script/other files.